Ahh I see the point you were making now. But I'd argue that an adrenaline rush is not the same as a "scare" or "excitement"... a release of adrenaline is marked by the "fight or flight" syndrome, and at absolute minimum a 10-30 minute period of enhanced sensory perception. No game or movie has ever caused such a response in me, even when I've had that quick jump from a scary moment - these are intellectualised frights, not the physical ones caused by experience of real violence.
Play dead space or amnesia, lol. That'll light a fire under your ass for 10-30

And if not, it's as close as you'll get to fight or flight. Amnesia, all you can do is flight, lol, and deadspace, definitely had some flight moments. Forced myself to play both at night. Sucks.
But anyway, we all know games are just simulators. Expecting more than a "demo" version of real feeling is expecting a bit much.
As for one night stands, it's not like the "relationships" have no emotion to them, though it's not like they're very deep either. It's likely why so many people do fanfiction, to fill in what Bioware left empty. So I definitely get not caring about it, as in this being a point to buy the game. That's definitely not why I'll get DA: I, if I still do. But I think the majority of people, when presented an in game option to get some in game booty will do so. At least once.
edit: Hey wait what!!! How can you hate Leliana? She's so cute and funny ;a;
Oh she's funny alright, hence why I enjoy picking on her

Her lisp, her rambling, her self righteous self important bs with that made up vision... she's friggin crazy. I had to really stress the suspense of disbelief to even let her come with me because she seems so out of wack with reality. I enjoy turning her down only for her to come again and ask to join me. Because I can make fun of her some more, lol.