Hmm okay. For the first option I chose Josie who had something like "the noblewoman has other allies she can ask them" but then for some reason the Grey Wardens still got dragged in so things weren't looking good for them and they weren't feeling happy either. I'll try doing it another way. But I haven't got Qunari soldiers because I don't side with the Qun in Bull's personal quest.
I always side with the Qun. I don't like them, but it's advantageous for me and barely costs me anything. They don't gain any sort of significant foothold in Thedas that they couldn't have gotten on their own one way or another, and I can stop the burning of half of Denerim. I worked with Sten as a warden. I don't see this as being much different.