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[Unkindled]

Oh I agree, she was being a bit of a bitch, and I'd never date someone like that anyway if they were like that. But if I know she isn't normally like that and she was screaming, then I know two things. One, she may be under the influence of her hormones, and or two, she obviously cares about me, so I'd try and be understanding.

Maybe. It really depends on the level of screaming. I know a lot of guys call a raised voice "screaming", and make their girlfriends out to be crazy when they're not. (I'm guilty of it), so I can't judge unless I'm there.

But I don't hang up on anyone but my grandma, because she is truly Satan incarnate.

 

[Mataresa]

Well I guess I am the complete opposite then. I would probably be the angry one, if I wouldn't hear anything from her for one week. But yeah, I get often accused from women, that I am not manly enough. I just have a very caring and emotionally strong side. I tend to end up meet the women which are too independant. Well at least we are all different so there is a chance there is someone for each of us.

 

[Unkindled]

I don't really get angry over stuff like that. Someone has to be an asshole and disrespect me to get me angry.

 

[gedierond]

Relationships aren´t easy, that´s definitely a fact. The important thing IMO is for each to state their positions clearly, so everything is clear from the beginning.
When I started dating my fiancee we both made it clear that we weren´t in it for a one night stand, and we met quite often from the start. But I´d have understood if she´d said something like "You know? I like to have my own time, so I´d like for us to meet less frequently". Then I´d have evaluated if that arrangement met my expectations or not, and I´d have acted accordingly, but I wouldn´t have freaked out about it.

@Blothulfur, I´d say you should think about how much you care about your lady before making a decision. If you´d really like the relationship to continue, take your time to explain your position to her, to make her understand that your not checking in for a week doesn´t mean you don´t care. Of course, she may not like it, and then you´ll have to see what happens. But if you two talk calmly about it, there is chance for reconciliation. (and we all know that reconciliation sex is the best!)

 

[Blothulfur]

Too late i'm:

 

[gedierond]

Well, if that´s case and you think it´s best for you, then that´s OK. It doesn´t make sense to continue with a relationship that is already overdue...

 

[Unkindled]

Too late i'm:

Heh, I'm more a fan of this one myself:

I don't want a relationship in this stage of life, but I'm definitely not against one. If I found a woman right now I thought was worth it, she wouldn't even need to ask me to break bread. I'd do it in a heartbeat with a smile on my face. And I definitely don't plan on being a bachelor for too long.

 

[Alan989]

Too late i'm:

Sorry to ask but, how did she take it? I hope it wasn't heartbreaking.

 

[Blothulfur]

Sorry to ask but, how did she take it? I hope it wasn't heartbreaking.

What's a heart?

Nah a man can never be called a monosyllabic, unfeeling, gorilla bastard often enough if you ask me, gives you a perspective on life.

But I shot back with a good one, I told her that I faked all my orgasms.

To be honest it was never right serious, it rarely is when you get older, just good times, company, sex and drinking. The overreaction when I disappeared for a week caught me out of the blue, I did say I was having a lads week and i'd ring her, I suspect that her mates (none of whom liked me) had a hand in it. I think she was also a bit pissed off that I talked to her exactly the same as I did me mates and everybody else, i.e. blunt and to the point.

Anyway to the Hairy Bear.

@Unkindled. Never reckoned much to Def leppard, used to see 'em ocassionally down at Leadmill and Wapentake in Sheff when they were starting up, never thought they were much kop.

 

[Unkindled]

Dang, that's quite the low blow, considering how easy it is for us to climax. That's hilarious, lol.

 

[Mataresa]

Well, getting an orgasm does not mean, you enjoy the sex as a man or are satisfied. Had such a relationship in the past, so I rarely had sex with her. In the end I ended it because of that. Women need to understand, that they need to put some effort in as well, for us to enjoy it. Ejakulation is not everything...

Last time I went out with a girl, it was her that couldn't commit. it would be nice to find someone again, that is smart and beautiful and interesting and not at the same time broken and not able to commit.

Sad to hear it ended, but you seem not too hung up about it @Blothulfur , so I guess for you it is fine. Plenty of fish in the sea.

 

[gedierond]

Well, getting an orgasm does not mean, you enjoy the sex as a man or are satisfied.

Aye! There are orgasms and Orgasms, with capital "O". You don´t get the latter everytime...

 

[Unkindled]

@Mataresa
Ehh, I don't know about that. I mean, I guess, but I've never had sex and not liked it. If I wasn't satisfied, it was because I wanted more. For women, it's not about climaxing always, depending on the girl that is, but in my personal experience, a climax always feels great.

But we're all different I guess. That's like Spanglish to me, though.

 

[Unkindled]

Now, if it's sex with a girl I feel like I'm in love with, and she feels the same, it's a LOT better, yea. But to me, bad sex is as they say, like bad pizza. It's still pizza.

 

[Mataresa]

See, there can be bad pizza, I don't enjoy.

But I am not saying, for women it is just about orgasms. Often actually it is secondary. But I think, there are plenty, that think, for men it is. Maybe I am a bit harder to please. Who knows. ^^

 

[Unkindled]

See, there can be bad pizza, I don't enjoy.

But I am not saying, for women it is just about orgasms. Often actually it is secondary. But I think, there are plenty, that think, for men it is. Maybe I am a bit harder to please. Who knows. ^^

Who knows. There's different levels of enjoyment to it though, even for guys. To that, we both agree. For me though, I've never done it and didn't enjoy it. For that to happen, I'd have to have been with someone who didn't like me, or wasn't into it, and I don't sleep around, so I've only ever been with someone I at least liked as a friend. Maybe when I get more experience I'll see what you mean.

 

[Mataresa]

Good for you. Well, maybe I will get more positive experiences in the future as well. Problem might also be, that I am very attentative to her needs, that I often put my own on the back burner. Have to find a good balance.

 

[goopit]

@materesa you could be a little more specific about what parts of the sex you didn't like

for me it's all about the womans pleasure and the faces they make while feeling good.

 

[Unkindled]

Good for you. Well, maybe I will get more positive experiences in the future as well. Problem might also be, that I am very attentative to her needs, that I often put my own on the back burner. Have to find a good balance.

Heh, I think I get what you're saying, but I don't want to get into TMI.
To put things into perspective, and so you don't think I'm trying to brag or anything, I'm only 21. At my age, I think it would likely be pretty hard for me not to like sex with someone.

I'm not saying it's always good because they always like it and I'm the man with the golden junk, lol. I have a friend like that, and he told me the most bullshit story of his sexual prowess ever. That he makes women climax like four or five times average, and his record is 17... yea.

Anyway, I'm just saying for me, my bodily response is usually pretty good. I guess that still sounds like bragging, but I think you get what I'm saying, hopefully :lol:

 

[Unkindled]

@materesa you could be a little more specific about what parts of the sex you didn't like

for me it's all about the womans pleasure and the faces they make while feeling good.

True. If that's what he means, then I see his point. I assumed he meant good for him specifically, just physical enjoyment.