I think it comes down to the "we are taking the facts at face value" stance, which is a bit stubborn, I agree, but also kind of warranted since we don't have any information on what to expect. people are frustrated, not just with the game, and their impatience leads some to go to the extremes in their thinking. I think most of the points have been already made in the first hundred or so pages, now we all are just spitballing.
I think every ending, save for suicide and a failure in the secret one, has an "optimistic" side to it, because as Cassidy said, it's all about attitude. if you think you're going to die - you are going to die. this way even a half-lobotomized V coming back from the moon has the same chance of survival as the V who left with Panam or the V who took over Afterlife - AND they are not an engram, which is a huge plus for many.
what bothers people the most is a) that their choices pripor to PNR don't matter and b) that it's all up in the air. I think if CDPR just came out and said, "that's it folks, we've told our story in full", many would move on at that very instant. but anticipation and uncertainty are very powerful things, so here we are, itching like addicts, wracking our brains. probably exactly what the devs wanted, but now is not the best time to agitate people like that, we are all a bit on edge in one way or another.