1. Militech think they were attacked by the Wraiths. They are framed by Carol and Cassidy after each mission. Even Kang Tao believe they were responsible for the AV. They attack you as you leave Night City because as we are shown during the Fortunate Son side job, corps and city people do not differentiate between Nomad families, they see them as one giant faction. Once distance is put between the Aldecaldo's and Night City, the heat will die off and the Wraiths will assume all of the attention. This view of the nomads is also shown through a couple of NCPD scanner hustles that unlock as you progress Panam's storyline, as Militech ambush and kill groups of Aldecaldos and Wraiths indiscriminately, along with anyone who has ties to them.
2. You leave Night City a few weeks, possibly months after the raid having not been attacked by anybody, despite living almost ontop of the scene of the crime. The Aldecaldo's entire faction outside of Night City is far too strong to attack for the sake of retaliation, they are tens of thousands strong with tech stronger than the Basilisk, the corps know this. Panam's chapter are linking up with them in Arizona while possessing a small fortune. They are set up with the possibility to snowball into one of the strongest independent factions in America by this ending.
3. Yorinobu takes control of Arasaka and slowly assassinates everyone else in charge, Arasaka is doomed, that was Yorinobu's plan from the start. Soon there will be nothing left. This is the only ending as far as I know where this is confirmed to happen.
4. The raid was decided upon by Saul, and he chose to do it for profit to help the Aldecaldo's recover from the constant pounding from the Wraiths, many admit that if they don't pull a financial miracle out of their ass soon, this chapter of the Aldecaldo's are finished and they will have to split. Bob comments on this in depth the night before, claiming it's a suicide mission but might be the only way to save the family. You are inadvertently used for your ties with Alt just as much as you use them to find Mikoshi, Saul is well aware that without you, the raid is impossible.
5. The effect that the fallout of Mikoshi has on Night City happens in every ending except suicide and The Devil. The chaos created by the power vacuum isn't exclusive to The Star.
6. 3 Aldecaldos are confirmed to die, and from what people are saying the night before the raid, either Saul or Panam have to go because their rift is tearing the Aldecaldos apart regardless of how things seemed after the Tank mission. Alt kills far more innocents than you or the Aldecaldos once she takes control of the tower, and she is not exclusive to The Star. She is the only way that Mikoshi can fall, and without the destruction of Mikoshi, Yorinobu cannot bring Arasaka down and Saburo's engram will live on. Funnily enough, this creates a plothole as it makes no sense that Yorinobu sends Smasher after you just before Mikoshi. He really was a boss for the sake of being a boss, very poorly utilized in the story.
Every ending has a cost. Devil costs the life of Yorinobu who may have been set up as the villain initially but he is probably humanities best hope considering Saburo's plans. The Sun costs the life of Rogue. The Star costs the life of Bob and Teddy but saves the Aldecaldos, of course Saul also dies, but his death was arguably the only way the Aldecaldo's survive. This is foreshadowed by the events of Panam's questline, and by key members of the family throughout. Panam even says to V herself, that Saul is trying to lead the family like she would after the deal with Biotechnica falls through, but he doesn't know how to emulate her, only she knows her strengths and weaknesses. Had Smasher not killed him, he would of likely stepped down or left.
So overall, The Star saves the family. The Devil destroys most of humanity and The Sun kills Rogue. If you pay attention during Rogue's side missions and gigs, she is definitely one of the best hopes for Night City, several of her missions involve dealing with corrupt politicians and corpos who are bleeding the citizens dry, and she funds and organizes those gigs on her own dime, acting as client and fixer. With the exception of Nancy's son, all the clients she is confirmed to work with are Unions and herself. Rogue is severely underdeveloped as a character, but there are strings of information that paint her motives IMO to show she is still trying to make amends for bombing the tower with Johnny and then selling out to Arasaka even 50 years later.
I can see the points you made, but you must not know about The Devil to think that The Star is the saddest and most selfish, and that the Aldecaldo's raid was a selfless sacrifice to save V. The only people who attacked Arasaka for the sole purpose of saving V were Panam and possibly Mitch due to believing he owes his life to you.
Johnny is right when he says that Mikoshi must be destroyed, The Star does exactly that while saving the Aldecaldos and making them much stronger.