Except you didn't provide a single example.
There's dozens of examples throughout the books. She saves Dandelion, Sacrifices herself to try and rescue Ciri, knowing full well it's probably suicide, and that her name wont be cleared or Geralt rescued, and endures months of torture because of it, she uses every ounce of vital energy she has trying to revive Geralt. None of which was done for herself, but to aid the people she cares about, without a care for her own well being. Also constantly bankrolling Geralt so he doesn't need to sleep under the stars.
She's a protective and loving mother who puts her family above all others including herself.
and you just try to make her out to be some cold bitch who cares about nothing besides herself and her own advancement. She doesn't even care about her own advancement. She only wants to care for her loved ones.