, I'm very sad hearing that your boyfriend's dad has alzheimer, it's a cursed desease. My mother had, I took care of her for long years. At the begining Victor and I we started to live together in his town. But few weeks later I was forced to come back home. The desease came to worse, my nerves broken more often and then Victor come to my side to help me. He really did because thanks his decision I gained some free time to arrenge all the burocracy steps for reach a place in a Geriatric residency after 6 years..
The whole family implication is very important, and even then, the desease still damaging someone apart the ill she/heself. Seeying day after day how that people you loved and loved you is desappearing in the void, when that alive body is losing his/her soul by memories drop by drop, the frustation hurts in the deepest of the soul of the rest of the family.
Just, San, be both of you strong and wise.