It`s usually best to just "Let it go" and continue the discussion without taking anything personally . If you feel that someone in singling you out or making it a personal attack the please use the report button .
I'm not offended it's just that I simply have not done anything wrong and I have to question why dragonbird decided to support Mr.Death's POV.I haven't said anything that could not be said in a college classroom setting.
It's not reasonable to expect that he won't be offended if he keeps bringing up his own personal life to use in support of his arguments.
especially if
1- he makes such statement about his ex-girlfriend himself. It's not clear whether his own comments are meant in a lighthearted manner or meant to simply evoke an unpleasant image in the reader(I originally thought it was the former and my own comments were made in that spirit)
2-I bring a valid point.
I said
Women and men are different and and different cultures have different roles for women. Political correctness brings mediocrity in art because it will show when you pander to an third party.The game should thus simply depict the situation honestly.
Paraphrased counter on his part:
"My girlfriend is extremely competent with violence. If would probably leave scars for
saying what you just said?
therefore .... what?
I don't know what to say. It's just too surreal a situation to take offense, it is just plain bizarre argument on his part. The statement could even be humorous if Mr.Death would not take it so seriously. How in the world does that help his cause?
The guy takes an extreme feminist position which is way outside mainstream feminism, and a complete strawman that is "tailoring the game to 14 yo" (which no one supports or mentioned except him) and pretends he is a moderate.
His whole posts are full of euphemisms like "compassion" and contradictions like (paraphrased) "I am all for putting the story,immersion and gameplay first except when it comes to offending me and feminists" that sound exactly like those of a politician. Which one is it?
By his own admission, it would cause issues for him to have gameplay come before political issues.Sorry but it's a non-issue whatever he is going through or whatever his girlfriends think of the game.
As tragic as his current situation might be, gameplay and story must come first. Positive political ramifications have absolutly no relationship to positive gameplay.
3- the reaction to my comment denotes that the guy has serious anger and relationship issues and there was simply no way for me to know about them beforehand. The burden is on him to find way to handle his emotions, and that means having the maturity not to mention his ex girlfriend every 3-4 posts or painting poor Rhonda as a bully or a brute if that cause him that much grief.
My point is not that I am offended and that he started it. My point is that the debate has to be fair and honest. I did not think his original statement was particularly offensive (albeit his intent might have been different) and I do not think my response was offensive either.
If someone brings up a homeless uncle to denounce the capitalist system, it's only a matter of time before that uncle's spending habits and life story are put to the magnifying glass. If it is not allowed, then the nephew would win the argument by default simply because people don't want to offend his uncle!!!! That makes no sense.
I know that in Mr.Death's circles (most likely blue collar ones), there is far less openness about ideas and the value of honest debate then in others. In these circles , what is offensive is often arbitrary and set by people who throws tantrums as was demonstrated by our little exchange.
is that really the culture that as an internet forum, we want to adopt? I hope not.
Food for thought.
. Is that really too much to ask for?