I think one thing I didn't articulate well is that these characters aren't TERRIBLE in isolation, it's when you compare them to their straight counterparts and see the pattern. You've got Zevran, the leather fetish spicy rogue hedonist who likes murder, vs Alistair. the virgin white knight who gifts you a rose. You've got Iron Bull, another promiscuous hedonist who's entire romance is centered on BDSM sex, vs Cullen and Blackwall, both romantic white knights. Vasco, the rogueish pirate, vs Kurt, your white knight childhood friend. Kerry, morally ambiguous kinky hedonist alternative lifestyle, vs River, masculine white knight police detective with family values...Reyes vs Jaal and Liam (pre-patched Jaal). It's hard not to be tired of it by now. The trend is only bucked by Cortez and Gil, that I can think of in a AAA RPG (Kaidan and Jaal being retroactively made m/m and Dorian being a stereotype of his own).
Extra confusion coming from the fact that there is so much feedback to draw from on this, with m/m Kaidan romance being almost universally well received and demand for a 'gay white knight' going back as far as DA: Origins release.
I do put some blame on a vocal minority in the LGBT community itself a little bit, with this trend of insisting that same-sex relationships and 'queer life' are inherently different to straight ones, which I think is confusing writers into drawing on tropes and emphasise their gayness rather than write them like a character who just happens to be gay.
Also just gonna reiterate here for the sake of positivity; I do actually think the game is great and I'm excited for the franchise going forward. Personal issues with Kerry aside, my biggest gripe and original main point is the huge gap in content between the female and male romances that I hope is addressed going forward.