I guess we experience RPGs differently. For me a good RPG makes you think: what would the person you are controlling do? It's not as much about me as it is about the character. Playing a multidimensional female character would be a challenge, but it would be a very fun challenge.But I guess there's a group of gamers that want to see themselves in their games. I respect that. As long as it's not only motivated by being freaked out about flirting with a virtual man that is
i'm personally very sad about the character customization trend. I want games to compete with movies, tell wholesome stories, give you different experiences. With player customization the protagonist loses his/her "soul" very often.
Lastly, I still believe that most people who are uncomfortable with the idea of female protagonists are the teenage crowd. I was not trying to suggest you are immature. Just look around the internet, arguments like : I NEED MORE BOOBS, HOOKING UP WITH A MAN IS GROSS are very common. you can't tell me an adult would spam things like these.
Sorry if I offended