Well, I'm note here to discuss about feelings, but the game and its features.
You said this bench sitting stuff and all is "basic feature set" for AAA games like this. You made this claim. Shouldn't be difficult to back that up, why would it be?
You can sit down in Skyrim, in the Fallouts, even in old Gothic. But frankly you seem to be ignoring the bigger issue. Sitting down places, eating stuff, drinking stuff, talking to people, watching life unfold, those aren't key features in their own right, but these small things do help maintain the illusion of a living city.
There is a reason why schedules for NPCs was hailed as a breakthrough instead of just having everybody stand in the same place, day and night. Again, it helps sell the illusion.
If you don't want to talk and you don't want to sit down ever, and you don't really care whether the city is immersive or not, then what exactly do you like doing in the game?